He's had occasional moments, but nothing like the past 2 months, because my guess is he longer views me as his wife but an obstacle to his being with his girlfriend I think, like a crack addict and you are keeping them from their crack. He's a sober addict and obsessed with her, either he is with her or texting her, and I think he just views me if I wasn't around then he could be with her all the time. Right now he just loves himself and the OW, and his kids maybe a tiny bit (judging by how little time he has been spending with them not that much). I've noticed he's virtually dropped running which was always his biggest passion, he was voted "Runner of the Year" by his track club last year and now he is barely running so he can spend time with her, stopped going to church, I'm afraid he may have stopped going to his AA meetings as well (that he's been attending for the last 20 years) all so he can have time with her.
My thing is that I've seen him go through a dozen "addictions" before, so I am still thinking that it may be possible that they break up, although I know it is equally possible that they may not. I wanted to at least try to give it a few more months to play out and see what happens with that relationship, I feel like I owe that to our kids and our 22 year relationship. I think my H is probably going to file in a few months anyway if their relationship continues, so I don't have to worry anyway, and then he will have that on his conscience as well as the affair. Karen43
