Quote: As far as what to bring up for your first session? I would think that C would take the opportunity to get as much background as possible. Be willing to share time with H talking - you two will have different takes on things. I would see if C has heard of SBT and has read some of Michele's books.
this c has as much background as you folks do..it is the c that I was seeing every week or ever other weed during the seperation so he is well aware of what went on..we didn't sit and bash h at anytime.. but tried to understand what we couldn't.
difference being c has only met h once and that was..well I don't know if it was a month ago or more recent but he has met him.
I did mention divorce remedy to him when I found it, even brought it with me to a session.
actually the c called today, he's had some cancellations and was hoping we could move our session earlier but can't..he just called back to verify the original time is ok and inquired if h would still be comming with me this visit...I let him know I was a bit nervous about it and he said...we will do our best to make the time usefull.
I don't intend to negate any of what h has to say...I will do my best to let his voice be heard and for him to express his feelings both past and present without defending myself.
I so want this to be a productive encounter.
I suppose it's normal to feel nervous about it...
things seem to be going very well despite the lack of "sex" so I don't want to stir things up or go there and find that h isn't happy and is just "faking it".
