It's NOT ALWAYS the case. My H didn't appear to grieve the OW at all. He didn't want to bad mouth her but he did 100% complete recommitment to the M and NC with OW. I think timing has a BIG factor to play. My H was ready for it to end with OW and it sounds like lwb's H is heading that way. I didn't expect major apologies, (though I wanted them), at the time. He did apologise for hurting me but not the A per se. In time though he has admitted what a massive mistake it was and apologised for all of it and admitted it was the wrong course of action. Now he will also say that OW was extremely manipulative and he fell for it hook line and sinker.
Each situation is different. I think me admitting to my mistakes in the M really helped with him being open back.
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
