It is normal to feel a little incredulity once you have accepted things as they are. I have been periodically incredulous that H has been willing to live without sex with nary a whimper for nearly a year now. The incredulity is followed by incremental steps toward accepting things as they are. My thought process goes - "Wow, he really doesn't give a sh!t about whether or not we have sex. I can't believe it." to eventually, "He doesn't really care whether or not we have sex, that is what his behavior shows." The shocked/confused/puzzled feeling goes out of it and the same thing becomes a statement of acceptance. Then, I am left to be able to mourn the same. "He really doesn't care whether or not we have sex but I really do. How sad. Now what am I willing to do about it?" (jury is still out). In your case your are marveling that he is so careless as to not even value the parts of the R that you cherised. Now you are just left to think, "How sad." That's ok. It is just part of coming to acceptance.
