Maybe some advice on my thinking about how or what to do with W? Maybe ask her out, or spend time together? What should I try? Honestly, I'm sick of playing DB, I just want to tell her I want some time with her, and see her reaction
Atlas,
You are being a little impatient, but I understand where you are coming from. You thinking seems to be, if things aren't going to move forward, then why bother waiting 90 days. And you want to spend time together, but she isn't making any strides your direction.
So, my feeling is that you should go for it. Ask her out. Go do something together. Grab some dinner and a movie. What do you actually have to lose? Maybe she's waiting for you to initiate something. If the worst thing that happens is she says no or she's not ready, then what have you lost? You were days away from going to court and finishing this marriage off. DB says, "do what works". Do you really know that asking her out doesn't work? Have you tried it in the last couple months?
In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years. Abraham Lincoln
It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed. Theodore Roosevelt
