Thanks, everyone, I appreciate the insight and moral courage! I'm not quite sure yet what I will say but I'll figure it out. He's sick today and can't visit the babies so I think I've bought a little more time- I can talk to his mom tomorrow (she's flying in tonight) and I think she will straighten him out on this issue. I don't like to get her involved but she lives across the country, he sees her every 18 mos or so, and will listen to her. So I think that will help.
Me-33, H-37 M-10yrs/T'gthr-13+ Twins- born 12/07 ILYBNILWY- Thanksgiving '07 He moved into apt 12/23/07 Expecting twins in days and husband left...