I am hopeful and will ride this out

[Lian]

Kerryk,

I am sorry your got into this mess but it looks to me that whatever you can do to keep yourself from feeling resentment and anger toward W is worth its weight in gold.

I know this older guy who married a young Filipina which he sponsored to come here and after two years she divorced him and left him and he ended up paying child support for a child he did not want so much. He is full with hatred, anger and resentment toward her. He feels that she used him and took advantage of him (and he is right to an extent).

Carrying those feelings to the next relationship will poison them as well.

I said to myself I do not want to carry those kind of feelings with me, it will ruin more than the next relationship it would mess up all my outlook about life.

I am trying always to remember the good qualities of my wife. I actually carry in my valet a card, this has few lists one of them is 5 qualities about my wife.

I hope I can continue having this attitude