Well, surprising change. WAW contacted me - said she was still reeling from MC. Wants to get together and talk about it.
I replied that I didn't know how much there was to talk about. That I'd been working on the M for 3 months alone while she remained uncommitted. Used Choc's line, "We can't work on anything when there are 3 people in this marriage." Ended by saying that she had asked for D so I felt like I needed to prepare myself for moving on, but if that was the wrong impression, she should tell me and maybe there was something to talk about.
She wrote back, said the C had opened a door of honesty that we hadn't been able to do on our own. Said she wanted to hear more from me, that she wanted me to say what I felt and be angry, mean, happy, brutal, or frustrated. Also said I was right, she hadn't been committed, and she realized what a stupid mistake she was making with OM - that she didn't want to feel attracted to him, but she was, though she realized she was giving up everything for something she knew could never be long term. Ended by asking if I would see her or not.
So, we'll see how tonight goes. Feel much better about maintaining my dignity and boundaries while still being open to working on M.
