100% agree, Oden. Sometimes there is remorse and lots of apologies, but more often, there is not. The betrayed spouse must give grace, and acceptance, and forgiveness, and not "lord it over" the wayward spouse if reconciliation and healing is to take place. Simply hugging him/her, and saying "I'm sorry you're in such pain," to me, is a great, acceptable way to handle it.
Those that advocate renting the moving truck, and cheerfully helping them furnish the separation love nest, however, I have no use for.
I try to live by "WWJD." He knew when to forgive the harlot, but He also said "go and sin no more," and he also knew when the time was for righteous indignation to well up and to overturn the money-changers' tables.
