That is definitely the other School of Thought. In my experience, the "We Mustn't Spook the Infidels!" approach doesn't work. Simply peruse the boards (this and others), and look at people's footers (the part at the bottom that gives their little personal timeline). There are people still sitting there, one, two, even three years later, faithful GALing, and just hoping their spouse will come back to them.

As the cheaters cake-eat.