There will be lots of missteps; many fits and starts. The important thing is that we learn from them, and improve our technique, and grow individually and become stronger. If I wasn't continuing to see some things in your actions that are very similar to what was in that letter, I wouldn't be beating yo up about it.
So long as we are more afraid of our spouse's responses than we are of losing our marriages (and our families), we will never step out in the courage and boldness required of such a tough task.
