Yep. It even shows up on CAT scans -- physiological fact, yessiree.
I'm not fond of the "aliens" analogy, as it seems a little hurtful/disrespectful to me, but many use it. I think the model of an alcoholic, or a compulsive gambler, is a more useful one.
That's why I'm so big on FIRST you have to get to "100% no-contact." With an alcoholic, isn't the very first thing you need to do is get the alcohol the hell OUT of the house??? Separating the unfaithful spouse from the source of their addiction is a MUST before any real recovery and healing can take place. And every time they re-initiate contact, the "clock" sets back to "0:00:00."
