From now on, can you to be drop-dead honest with me and yourself?
Trying, someone in the midst of an affair will LIE. In fact, nearly ALWAYS, to protect the affair and its addiction. It's sad, pathetic, and it'll piss you off, but the sooner you come to grips with the phrase "All cheaters lie," the better you will be able to make decisions and do the things you need to do.
Like a "real" country with a standing army and democratic rule, fighting against cells of terrorists, you are NOT in a fair fight. That's true emotionally, and it's even true spiritually. It's not a fair fight, and your wife does NOT have your marriage's best interests at heart right now.
So guess what -- YOU need to.
I know, this sukks. It sukks worse than anything else you'll ever go through. But it CAN be done.
