Originally Posted By: cat03

That she'd take care of the kids and would finance the the D "no matter the cost".

-- oh this is so damned funny! I guess she'll finance the D by selling porn pics and flogging her body on the street. What a player! What a trooper! What a martyr! She'll make the ultimate sacrifice: her soul for someone else's husband --

Doesn't look like a sad confused person to me, more like the harpy from hell.

-- you could be right --

I knew from H that he'd told her some unflattering things about me.

-- I knew from a different source, see my post below --



Hi Cat, sorry that you've been put on 'hold' for now, I know how frustrating that can be, how much it acts to get a person all strung out. So we'll just hang out with you, keep you company in the interim, tell a few jokes, exchange a few nuggets of information.

Here's how I knew that H had said some unflattering things about me to OW (ie, was talking behind my back -- the ultimate betrayal, the worst thing a friend can do) I knew it from reading dozens, maybe even hundreds of stories on MLC/EMA forums. (I'm the next thing to being retired, so I have plenty of time for research)

I read LBS stories and WS stories, also a few OW stories. For the thing to work, W has to be found wanting. Seriously deficient. For the lovers to proceed with their script and to retain their good self-images, W MUST be reduced to being the kind of person it is OK to betray -- otherwise the thing won't work. So I knew that H had done this, and I confronted him with it. He denied, of course, went back to virtues of xOW, how she 'wasn't out to destroy anyone's marriage'. But I'm not letting this issue drop, Cat, not that I'm pursuing it to the detriment of whatever gains we've made in R, but I'm not letting it drop, it is an important issue that needs to be resolved before I would ever entertain the idea of living with H again. And reading your story has simply strengthened my resolve. Thanks for continuing to tell your story. You're doing more good than what you might realize, and for people that might not ever get around to telling you this, like I have.