"Pressure" is precisely what any affair needs. Some of that pressure comes naturally, from within the affair itself, as the infidels begin to see each other's "warts," and the initial excitement and infatuation wears off, and reality sets it. But other pressure can be brought to bear externally, and YOU get to be in charge of it! The pressure of a parent, sibling, or other person she respects, going to her and imploring her to end her affair and return to her family. The pressure of cutting off any resources that enable their affair.
You need to not even MAKE statements like "My pledge to you remains. I will give you the time and space you need to resolve your issues. Just know that I love you.", but if you DO make them, you need to finish it with a steely gaze directly into her eyes and " . . . but make no mistake about it, ______ (and use her name here, and not a "pet" name), my patience is NOT limitless. You do have a decision to make, and a lot of us pray you make the right one."
