I just don't know what to do now. I'm thinking chasing after him will just result in the push me pull you thing we seem to have going. And 'going dark' will just send the message that I don't want to have anything to do with him. And quite frankly, in the short term, avoiding him would be the easiest thing to do. Long term however, divorce will make him a bitter and twisted man. And while I know I can grow and improve myself, my relationship with the father of our daughter will always be tense, narky and quite possibly always hurtful. I don't want that. I just wish he could take things real slow...he never does.
Step 1. Tell former g/f to bugger off for good Step 2. Break up with current g/f Step 3. Prove Step 1 and 2 to me Step 3a. Remain faithful to me Step 4. Spend time with d plan ahead with me, stick to the plan or problem solve to resolve difficulties, ring her every night/day to say hello and tell her he loves her Step 5. Be my friend. Don't try to ML with me every chance he gets. Step 6. Commit to weekly IC Step 7. Find a pro-marriage, solution based counsellor for joint counselling. Agree to pay alternate sessions with me Step 8. Help with finances, specifically, pay half of d's out of school care costs Step 9. Read some book about repairing marriages. websites, talk to friends whatever... just do some research! Step 10. plan dates...take into account cost of dates. Try to find things that are free Step 11. (maybe this should be Step 1) Be transparent about his doings. Step 12. Find and book us into a communication course
urgh...I'm sure there's plenty more but it's 2am here and I have a 6.30am physio appointment. Might not bother going to bed. Doubtful I would have a pleasant sleep anyway.
