Thanks to you Choc and Aimhigh for the words. I think I am stronger everytime I read a post in this thread.
In a few minutes, I am going to get that book (impact of divorce on kids) and give it a read. I suspect I will give it to her very soon so she can see what she is doing.
So at this minute, my plan is to lay low, improve myself, avoid negative confrontation, don't beg, and if the subject of the affair or our marriage is brought up by her, I will be telling her I am willing to talk until my lips turn blue as soon as she cuts it off FOR GOOD with the OM.
Good reference to the astronaut story. That is EXACTLY what this is. Sounds like many of our SOs have had "Nowak-syndrome", or some form of it.
It will be difficult to ignore that 800 pound gorilla in the room. But I am going to give it a go.
