I think most of the people here are in similar situation, WAW. There is great advice around here. You should read the wisdom forum and there are some classic post people can point you to.

You will see that there are ways to deal successfully with this situation, hang around here and you will get very good advice (I know I got).

As you just begin your journey I think reading Michele post about pushing is critical.

Me 42
W 27
Married: 6 years
Together: 7 years
Daughter: 3 years
Wife away 2/16/2007 - 12/27/2007 (School in a different country)
EA/PA began on Jan 07 (found out 12/29/07)
Papers served on 2/6/2008