I hear you, fish. Detaching is the hardest part...forcing yourself to get busy does help. Less time sitting around the house feeling sorry for yourself. My W and I did everything together as well. That's why this is so hard...it's like losing a part of myself. I only can hope that she feels that too, if even a small amount.
I still have my moments...but I try to keep them to myself. I think about how and where I went wrong pretty much every waking moment. I wish our life had a rewind button. I'd rewind back to about April and proceed to make my wife the happiest, most grateful woman alive. But that isn't going to happen.
Me: 54 Her: 50 and sexy as hell M: 32yrs T: 34yrs Bomb: Sept 26-07 "lost our emotional connection" Bomb 2: Dec 25-07 she's "not feeling desire" She asked if she could come home Apr 26-08! Everything's GREAT!