Thank you, HB. Yes, you did help me, thanks for your full account of Retrouvaille experience -- and also of persistent OW. What is it with these people, anyway?! WS at least has the excuse of MLC depression/altered state of mind -- what is OW excuse? Addiction to soap operas? (I'm not a religious person, so I refuse to accept the explanation of 'pure evil')
Originally Posted By: Heartbroken
she had called him on his bday in Sept (he had been home since July - yes these OPs just don't give up) and we did not do Retro until Oct. She knew about the weekend and tried to tell me (via email) that he mocked it - I hope I helped!
HB
HB, I hope you keep posting on your thread. Your story really is very helpful to those of us coming along behind you. For myself, I have been in and out of a funk a lot lately, even though reconciliation is actually coming along very well. I am thinking that maybe this could be related in part to the 'anniversaries' coming up for me now -- it's been a year since this started happening for me, a year ago last early January I started intercepting the confusing emails between H & xOW. On his b'day, Jan. 30, there was a suspicious incident which sent me running to the computer, leaving the Bearnaise sauce to curdle (as any serious cook knows, it takes an awful lot to make her leave the Bearnaise sauce at the critical point!)
The one thing that really helps keep me on track and going steadily forward are the stories from others who have gone over this same ground. To realize that the story I am grappling with is not exactly 'my own', it is a shared script, many of the important details are experienced by others, the characters of WS and OW are pretty consistent, one can expect OW to behave in a particular way and so not to be thrown off when it happens. Ditto WS. It is like a 'syndrome' (in the medical sense). So I thank you for the update on your particular story and look forward to more.
