You are right. Time to stop the pity party. It has been 9 days since the infidelity bomb was discovered. I guess I am a little unsure on how to act.
But to answer your questions, on Day 1, I demanded she stop all contact with him. She called him to tell him it was over the next day. She stopped talking to him for 1-2 days after that, and then started talking again. So, yes, I have asked her to stop the EA/PA. She has not done so. I also demanded that we go to MC together immediately. She has been to 1 counseling session alone, but we/she is not ready for MC. She is going again tomorrow alone. Says she is trying to figure out who she is and why she is who she is in relationships. There is some baggage there, but I never thought until now that it wasn't something that would cause MLC(?) or A or whatever this is.
Question - it has only been 9 days. I know she needs time. I *think* I know that guilting her back to reality won't work. But, what do you think of this? There is a book I found called "Between Two Worlds: The Inner Lives of Children of Divorce." http://www.betweentwoworlds.org/ It is obviously about what happens to the innocent kids of a divorce.
What do you think the impact might be if I just leave it for her to read? I want to "wake" her up (even though I know that is HER job). Thought this might be a way to do it? Or is this just a bad idea to use guilt and reality to get her to come back to me??
