First ILY in over 18 mos!!

[Heartbroken]

Sorry Apple - been busy at work/classes/offsites...

Regarding our Retro weekend - it was not the AhAh moment for my H - meaning he did not "immediately feel the love" - I think this seemed to happen for many couples there. There was a lot more hand holding or touching going on by the end of the weekend vs when we started. What it did do for my H and I was to get us to learn how to communicate with each other. We had tried separation, MC and he still feels that Retro was what helped him the most.

For you it will depend on your sitch - I had though my H had been completely done with OW - but she had called him on his bday in Sept (he had been home since July - yes these OPs just don't give up) and we did not do Retro until Oct. She knew about the weekend and tried to tell me (via email) that he mocked it - but I cannot believe her... So his OP was not completely out of mind... He was WILLING to try and work on us and we attended all our post sessions too...

The weekend gives you real couple examples on how they went through some major crisis and made it. You NEVER have to share anything personal with the group (we had 28 couples) unless you want to and all your private discussions you take back to the hotel room (or wherever you are staying). We cried a lot! (They had tissues at each table). So be prepared for an emotional weekend!

I hope I helped!

HB