If I were you, I would email her a link to this forum, include a basic primer on how to search for past postings on it, and sign the email "hairdog". The ultimate "radical honesty" move.
Maybe she'll come around. Maybe she won't. But at least you can say you gave her every chance to and every bit of data that could possibly lead her to work with you.
I would have thoroughly agreed with you about this a while back. Now I'm not so sure. Let's say HD used to be a fat, spotty kid with braces and poor fashion sense. If he was single and dating do you think he should plan on pulling out those youthful pictures at some point to reveal the "real" HD to a woman? I mean hiding pictures like that would be dysfunctional but it seems to me that the healthy behavior would be to just laugh along with everybody else when the album is randomly opened at the holidays. If HD has reached a new level of functioning there is little point in dwelling or revisiting past less functional interactions and reactions. Most important would be that he is openly and honestly communicating with MsHD the substance of what he is currently posting here.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
