H says he wants to be with you. Good. It's up to you to let him know what the conditions are that will allow that. It's completely reasonable to expect your spouse to be emotionally and sexually faithful to you and your marriage.
If he wants to play games by not answering the phone, etc., then you can send email/text to tell him, respectfully, the important information he needs about your daughter, shared financial responsibilities, etc.
Many unfaithful spouses want to act hurt, because it will distract attention from the fact that what they're doing is wrong. A little empathy on his part now would show him how much more hurt you felt over his betrayals outside the marriage.
I don't really understand what his hurt is about. It's not like you ml to him with someone else taking a priority in your life. It's not that he broke up with ow and then you spurned him. I think it's sheerly a ploy to confuse the real issue, i.e., he's involved with someone else and hasn't ended it.
Hang in there!
Joe
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