Thanks FA - your posts always make me feel better. Thats the problem with DBing - how do you keep DBing showing that you are nonchalant, fake being so happy and agreeable but not let them walk on you. I think that is why I did not throw him out or create scene. I did email him very civilly after and explained how it was innapropriate what he did - and he should never have come over here drinking and not informing me he wanted to come by especially since he has not seen Bella in weeks and he does not live here anymore. I also went on to say - very nicely - remember you created the hostility in this divorce and the high lawyers bills by your treatment of me. I told him if he is respectful of me he will get it in return. I also explained the reason I dont want Bella to go over your house is shes not ready. Do you know she is very confused - your living with a woman and daughter - she feels like she has been replaced. Do you know what I got back - sarcasm and another quote of how he will never come back, how it was not meant to be. I never mentioned our relationship at all. I mentioned all the disagreeing while the divorce has been going on about lawyers and OW. So - you see - anything - and I mean anything I email him about - either respect me or concerns about Isabella - he reads as - oh shes still pining away for me - she still wants me - its unbelievable his arrogance that the only reason I dont want Bella over with OW is jelousy. HE thinks it is totally appropriate and the only reason he can see I object is jelousy. He said in his email - shell get used to it - she has gotten used to alot of things - your just giving me a hard time. It is so frustrating.
