She's gone...I'm devastated, but hopeful

[minkerman]

Thanks wii. I'm not too fussed about it - it's 2 forward, one back, all good as long as we keep moving forward.

I'm going to bounce something off you guys. She knows I did not want her to move out. I wanted to work on things together. Anyway, she felt that she really needed her own space in order to get clarity about who she is and what she wants. So be it.

So, as a mega-180, I supported her move by buying her a hi-tech single-cup coffee maker. So she can have her hot cup of coffee first thing in the morning in 60 seconds.

Today, in addition to swapping our debit cards when we briefly met, I surprised her with 30 pre-measured coffee filter "pods" for the machine, so she doesn't have to deal with filters and grounds.

Am I sending the right message? Am I showing that I enjoy her being away? Or am I (as I think) showing her that I simply support and validate what she is going through?

Thanks for any feedback. I just want her back - but I want her to WANT to come back for real.