One word: idiocy. He can't see what an @ss he is being. Lots of folks here refered to their WAS as "being beemed up to the mother ship" because of their deranged behavior.
I remember sticking to my H budget, almost never buying myself anything nice nor taking my kids out too much...and he just would show up with brand new Harley D boots and pants and jackets to ride his bike (one he bought against my wishes).
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I did all the cooking, all the cleaning, msot of the d3 care. H spent lots of money friviously, and I spent very very little on myself. Too little in fact. Maybe if I had spent more and done less, there would be less resentment? Maybe if I had ... I always felt like I had to pick up the slack, like I had to parent him too.
Same story here hon, I was full of resentment and was too tired to ML (a reason things started going down hill, I rejected my H too often, too tired, too upset). Do NOT beat yourself nor take most of the blame, there was no way you would've known what you know now, no use upsetting over the past. I also felt like I was parenting my H too, our communication was lousy and the rest...is history.
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past due bills...I figure he's on his own now
And keep it that way, do not bail him out.
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Up and down
I know hon, i know, give yourself permission to vent/cry/let it out, it is the nature of the S beast, we call it the rollercoaster.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
