Not that I wouldn't have guessed that my W would begin to show some indication of what appears to be neediness and being a little conciliatory. It just so happens that a few days ago her only child my stepD19 got to take a brief European vaca to Germany. My W doesn't have any real close attachments/friends. So with me pretty well either semi or permanently banished from an intimate R w/ her and her D out of town for a few days already and a few more to go, she has called me three times so far today. After the second 1 I returned her call to sort out logistical type stuff and it was then that she mentioned D being away for a while. I felt really good about how I handled myself during that call. And just in the last hr I got a call that I missed by about a minute. Her msg was nearly incoherent and ultra short, "Iiitts meee (and her name)". She sounded pretty well out of it and in the dumps. It seemed like bait for me to call her back. But for now anyway unless there is another call explicitly requesting me to call her back then I really won't even consider it. Man I have come a long way from being in complete and total 100% chase/pursuit mode 100% of the time. As the C put it 'distancer-pursuer'.
