L7 - If this is MLC, I would be careful about taking seriously anything she says now. It could change down the road. I would protect yourself financially - they do some crazy stuff with money when they are in this.
I would have a tendency to agree with you on limited communication. When my H was home - it was bad. The stress of having him here was unbelievable. Even though I didn't want him to leave - it is much, much better. We are all happier...except for him.
As far as Sunday get togethers - that is tough. We don't do it because we don't want to give our kids (D14 and D11) false hope that there won't be a D.
Are the kids staying with you?
Good luck - this is a rough road. You will need your strength, your patience and your humor!
