Yeah, i read the DR book and stopped nagging him a few weeks ago. I don't mention OR at all, or our marriage, or divorce or anything anymore. He hasn't brought it up either.
H has been gone for 5 weeks today. I'm starting to get his past due bills in the mail, for his credit cards and his car payment. I just put all his bills together and give them to him when he comes pick up D3 on Saturdays. I don't mention his bills being late, I figure he's on his own now. He only has 2 credit cards, and a car payment to make.
I got left with ALL of the household bills, the rent, the insurance, etc. Half of the credit card debt is in my name, half is in his (our debt is ridiculoudly high, we have ALOT of debt. this is financial suicide for both of us)
H called tonight to see how I was doing. I was very upbeat, and chit chatted about d3 and our day. H seemed in a good mood, he said that he tried calling me earlier but I wasn't home I had heard his message, but didn't call back. H also complained that his mom & sis never give him messages when I call. he says he calls home when he goes out and asks if I called, and sometimes they say no when I had.
Ugh. Detaching is getting more doable every day. I truly do feel like I'm moving on to a life of my own, slowly but surely. Sometimes I think I don't want him back. Sometimes that all-too-familiar ache builds up in my chest when I realize that he's with another woman, and it may be for good. Up and down.
Incidently, I went to my chiropractor's today. I used to work there, and one of my old bosses (there are 3 doctors there) is a minister and does christian counseling for young married couples. Once a week, him & I have spoken on the phone since the bomb, and he reiterates alot of the DB principles and ideas. He has been so supportive of me, I've known him for 5 years now. He said that in almost every case, more than 90% of the time, married men who leave their wives for another woman come to regret it, he has seen it over and over again in the past 20-some years he's been counseling. Food for thought?
*dated at age 12- 15 (me) and age 13-16 (him) *reunited at age 19 (me) and age 20 (him) *me 23, H 25 *married 3 1/2 years, 1 d *dropped ILYBINILWY bomb on 12/19/07 *moved out same day, PA with OW confirmed
I had heard his message, but didn't call back. H also complained that his mom & sis never give him messages when I call. he says he calls home when he goes out and asks if I called, and sometimes they say no when I had. 