I'm hoping you are serious about leaving your wife and the relationship alone for the foreseeable future. It's incredibly unhealthy for you. Your latest long post reads like a primer of what NOT to do for any newcomer to this board. Here's why. ....
Relationship talk is bad. Particularly with a spouse who is not making much sense, at least in the rational world sense of the word.
Yes, I realized this after the conversation. Thing is she is calm, and seems to make sense to me when she's saying it. "We haven't been happy, it can't be fixed." I don't dispute this. We've had some good times, to be sure. She is very convincing and not hysterical. I'm starting to believe her.
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It sucks Frank, but the truth is that there isn't much in the way of nourishment for you in this relationship right now anyway. Doesn't sound like there has been any for quite some time.
No, there hasn't been. I don't know why I keep looking for 'hope' or continuing to hold on. Pretty crazy thinking.
As I have been told "Make yourself happy first". Then see what happens. No more feeling sorry for myself. Pain sucks.
By the way, I decided just to go with the flow. I'm nice, positive and if she does ask me anything divorce related I'll just agree with her and be indifferent.
Fighting it is wearing me out. When I overhear her talking to certain girlfriends it makes a shock go through my system. I don't like that and I know its from fear and neediness.
Being needy is pissing me off. I was never like this before. I don't like it at all and I will stop it.
