We've been there where you're at. The hardest thing to realize is that there is nothing we can do to get our spouses to wake up and nothing we can do to get them to change -- if this is to happen, they have to do this on their own.
In fact, the last person a WAS will listen to while they're in their "fog" is their spouse. Sad but true.
So all we can do is to pray. Pray to God that He will find a way to find that opening into your W's heart. Only He can change a person's heart, and only if that person allows Him to.
Yes, bad things do happen to good people, unfortunately. That free will God let us have ain't always so wonderful, is it? It's both a blessing and a curse.
