You said: "You are my wife, and I love you and I will fight for my marriage and my family, you're damned right I will." Funny you said that. I said almost those exact words to her yesterday.
Learn to live by what I'm about to say, and to judge her by the same: Actions, not words.
Show her you're fighting. One of the things I had to learn was, I've always been a pretty good wordsmith, and I learned to put actual faith in words. That if I could just craft her a persuasive enough e-mail, if I could just write oh-so-perfect song lyrics to her, why then everything would be ok.
(((rrrrr!!! WRONG!)))
Talk is cheap. SHOW her.
As for this:
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Just coming home from work. It is tough to figure out how to act around her. I know she doesn't want me to look at her because she is disgusted by her actions. But I want to be around the kids (and I won't compromise on that.) So, we are spending time around each other. It is just hard to know how to behave around her. Don't mention the affair again? Be extra nice to her? Or Be business like with her? Just haven't figured that out yet.
Man, that was the hardest. I used to come around the curve in the road, approaching my house, and my skin would crawl when I would see her car in the driveway. Conversely, my heart would leap when I'd see she was gone, at work! And I used to DREAD the weekends. Turns out she had the same feelings, LOL.
I was advised to make my demeanor around her what we called "Joe Friday." As in, "nothing but the facts, ma'am." I was courteous and civil, but did NOT go out of my way in any way to extend extra kindnesses to her. We were businesslike; cordial.
