I got this on CD so I could listen in the car while I travel and I have listened to it twice apart from the strange couples stuff at the end. He covers a lot of stuff very well.
I have been helping her find a new place to live and I have been getting quite a few acknowledgements and words of appreciation from W. I have accepted these with thanks. I think my attitude change which is now " lets get on with what we need to do " and helping her set up a more permanent place with enthusiasm has her a little rattled as amongst the gratitude , anger often appears when unexpected. I am gently trying to impose some boundaries but as my friend says I am too soft on her and have to be less willing to help her when she needs me , let her stand on her own 2 feet for a while. But despite everything its not in me not to help when needed .
I am actualy happy not to be living with W now and every day I think it gets harder to think of going back. I am bored with this celibate life as well . I have had a few "casual dates" over the last month which have been nice distractions and will probably continue to do so , in this regard both ladies are happy with the situation and knowledge that I am not looking for any commitment or emotional attachment. they are both the sort where I can call after no contact for a couple of weeks and say " what are you doing tonight ? want to catch a movie? ". Sometimes I would like more but thats not fair on anyone until I have realy decided I am done.
