Maybe there is a third alternative here that you can find. Something that expresses that you are strong and independent but that you are not taking any of his crap anymore. Set a boundary in a way that makes you feel good about yourself. How do you want H to see you? I think something a bit more funky and upbeat.
I totally agree with this! I want to sound upbeat and in control. When I sound sad, H beats himself up about it...I'm thinking a little about that.
