Good question. I haven't figured that one out yet. While I will try to detach myself from needing her, I guess (at least right now) in the back of my mind I will be acting in ways to help her remember what it is she is about to lose in me. Maybe that is detaching, maybe not. I just started working on this today, so I still don't have a plan down yet. I just know I don't want to lose what we have.
Very difficult though. It kills me to think about her having the affair and it kills me to think that it is still going on.
It may be too early to say for sure, but I guess I will have to put some timeline on her for her to choose what she wants? Not ready to do that yet since the dust hasn't even settled. But I won't be a doormat forever.
