Maybe she doesn't have the 'courage to leave' and has to 'let me go', meaning she has to create within herself 'the courage to leave'.
Frank, let me paint this picture for you.
While not discounting the fact that your wife is surely hurt by what she perceives to be the end of a long-term relationship, and notdiscounting the feelings she has for you, and ALSO keeping in mind that financial difficulties DO make your wife feel insecure, what I believe that bottom line really is with the BS she's spitting out ("trying to let you go")is mostly this:
"I'm struggling to let go of my meal ticket, my security blanket, in the hope that I can find someone else to take better care of me or I can take better care of myself".
That's what I think your wife really struggles with because if she had any sense at all she would be taking appropriate steps to render herself financially independent. The fact that she is not doing that is proof positive that she hasn't got the sense the good Lord gave a goose. She lives in fantasy land. She's not happy where she is but Frank, that has LESS to with you than it does with her tendency to seek prince charming and other fairy tales. Your wife is an 8 year old trapped in the body of a woman. I really believe that it is going to take attendance at the school of hard knocks for her to grab a clue.
YOU meanwhile, need to knock off the phychological evals.
Simply put the deal is this: Your wife needs to grow up and YOU can not raise her.
Now Frank, watching you flitting around is becoming a chore so I'm going to hit you with some additional knowledge. With all your intellect you really are clueless yourself. I have some news for you and it is this: You are not your wife's best hope. You are also not your own only hope. Leaning on your own understanding and ability to reason is what GOT YOU INTO THIS MESS. I suggest you try something else such as THIS .
Now you should know that is okay to acknowledge Him even if you're not sure about Him.
