There is a difference with me and I would love for you to respond and see if you feel different after I explain something about myself:
I wasn't like normal women who talked everything through. I would always bite my tongue, ignore our problems. So, me not saying anything is my "same old thing". A 180 for me is to stand up for myself and set boundaries (b/c I never set boundaries before).
So, what do you think now with that information?
The thing is...the reason why I mind hearing about the Florida house is because it makes me sad that I'm not going to be a part of it. Right now, he is still w/ OW, hasn't made any changes with her. So, it hurts my feelings hearing about something that I won't ever get to enjoy.
So, i'm not quite sure if this is a good place for me to set a boundary? Or would it be better for something else? I've been searching the boards all day and reading about setting boundaries, but no one seems to have a similar situation as me.
A possibility I'm also thinking about doing is just calling him and talking about it. Gently saying to him, I'm curious to see why you talk to me about this stuff? "am I going to get a chance to enjoy this house? If not, than it hurts me to hear about something that was taken away from me."
H & I, both 32, together since 18. *M 7/03, A since 9/06. Bomb 7/07, H ended it w/ OW 9/08 * Agreed to D 6/09...very hard *D 8/10 * At peace, have become great friends w/ X-H and his new GF
