I think it is good for him to take Saturday off. But what day do YOU get off? My schedule (not that we have implemented it yet) was for H to have 2 nights a week and alternate weekends. Those two nights I can do what I want, and my weekends "off" I can do what I want. Not that you don't love S, but you both need at least one night a week to do your own thing....it was good you said "OK" because that is not what he expected from you. Besides, in the beginning you suggested it, even if it took him awhile to decide...I think what you did and what H decided is fine. Just make sure YOU get time for YOU.
In regards to my sitch, H is coming home tonight after work, he says. I still think he should move out if he can't commit to changing his ways and actually WORKING on our R. I know we DB-ers aren't supposed to be pushy regarding the status of R, but I tried the "time and space" approach and he just ran with it, doing what he wants when he wants 24/7.
If I want to do something I have to get a sitter but when he goes out all night guess who is watching the kids? Me. So no more of him claiming to want to work on fixing our M and then staying out all night not even talking to me about taking a new job, etc. They say in the book don't waffle, I am not going to this time. Enough is enough. Either he make some changes or I tell him it is easier to live without him, for now. When he is ready to make changes, I may or may not want him back in my life. But of course he will always be part of S and D's life no matter what. That will always come first for me....
