JOHN210(AKA the angry LBS or SOB)

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On that note I say don't move out.

John, I was in exactly in the same delema. But unlike Lan's case my W tried to get me to move out. Like you I thought/talked about it a lot; I decided not only to stay but to sleep on my side of the king bed. W later moved to the kids' room and later the judge made her leave the house. I don't regret staying put, but what I regret is I lived in fear and hell for 4 months. W attacked and provoked me daily banging on doors, yelling, etc. I dealt with it by escaping to my office, going out for walks, calling/visiting friends/relatives and my lawyer. I did not join this board until way after she moved out. If you can collect yourself together NOW and quickly learn how to "detach", "validate", "GAL", and not give in to fear, anger and panic under the same roof then I'd say STAY.

Maybe go somewhere for a couple of days to get your act together on how you are going to operate and then come back "strong" for the big fight of your life where you can face W head on without batting an eyelid. I think its possible or at any rate at least worth a try.