Thx for the reply. I certainly don't intend on being a doormat. I can see where I have been the fool to try to give up so much of my pride and dignity so she will stay. Not going to do that anymore, that is for sure.
You said: "You are my wife, and I love you and I will fight for my marriage and my family, you're damned right I will." Funny you said that. I said almost those exact words to her yesterday.
Thank goodness for the feedback you guys are giving and for this site. Before I found this site today, I typed up 20+ things I would do for my wife in our 'new' life. I was going to give it to her. No way will I do that now. I am learning she has to make the choice, and I can't make her choose. I can only be who I am, and make myself the better person I am supposed to be...for me. You know what is difficult? Just coming home from work. It is tough to figure out how to act around her. I know she doesn't want me to look at her because she is disgusted by her actions. But I want to be around the kids (and I won't compromise on that.) So, we are spending time around each other. It is just hard to know how to behave around her. Don't mention the affair again? Be extra nice to her? Or Be business like with her? Just haven't figured that out yet.
