H left today to go down to Florida to help his mom plan their new house...
He e-mailed me this: "I'm on the plane waiting to take off for Daytona. My mom called me at 6:30 to make sure I was at the gate and to give me explicit instructions on how to meet her once I land. I had to remind her that I could just call her when I got there. "Oh! That's true, too."
Four days with my mom. Remind me why I agreed to this?"
He then talked about a funny lady that was on the plane.
My question here:
Yesterday, my C and I discussed how I need to start setting boundaries b/c H talks to me about things that are upsetting me (like seeing the wedding photographer). the same thing goes with this house. H knows how much I was into his parents building this house and now...it seems like I may never see it!
I was thinking about e-mail him back something to the manner of:
"Have fun in Florida. I truly want to share with you the fun you are going to have helping with the layout and the colors and the (funny to me) aggrevations that your mom is going to cause you. But, the fact of the matter is that there is a reason I'm not going down with you on this trip. In my heart of hearts I want to share with you your involvement in this project, but it is really hard for me to do that while we aren't together. I hope you understand."
What do you all think?
H & I, both 32, together since 18. *M 7/03, A since 9/06. Bomb 7/07, H ended it w/ OW 9/08 * Agreed to D 6/09...very hard *D 8/10 * At peace, have become great friends w/ X-H and his new GF
