Hi BA, thanks for your help on my thread...now my temporary drama is over, I've had some more time to read others and I just read yours, and I cant believe what I'm reading !!!
Your H is a big child (sorry, but he sounds like he is right now).
I think you should take heart from the fact that, hes still in the house and not moved out, that he talks to you, thats hes willing to go to C (are you still going??), that he RINGS you 6 times a day! and that he lies in bed and gives you cuddles.
This is clearly a confused man, but it doesnt seem to me that hes done with your R. I think, reading your posts, that you're still very emotionally connected. I'm not expert (!) but I reckon you should work harder on the 180/detachment stuff. At the mo, you are always where he knows you'll be. Is that right? Maybe wrong foot him a bit...he disappears at lunchtimes sometimes, or was doing that, calling the MOW (who sounds as childish as your H by the way!)..so why dont you start doing a disappearing act? Be out sometimes..dont answer the phone sometimes..be vague. See if he misses you? Hes got it all on a plate at the mo..well, unless i read your sitch too quick there and misunderstood.
Does your H really moan about everything then? Its interesting, he does sound alot like my "people-pleasing" BF..I cant believe his answer to you that he "just wants everyone to be happy". That sounds bad doesnt it, for his own sake I mean, wheres his happiness in all this...and you asked him and he said "I dont know" ! He seems very lost. Considering his age and moaning about the past 2/15/22 years of his life, sounds very MLC, but what do I know! I cant even tell if my own BF is in MLC...but he may just be depressed. Do you think your H is?
I know its hard, thinking of this OW, but shes just a red herring I reckon, shes not the problem. Your H is still with you though, that speaks volumes I think. Thanks for your help !
