Here is how I see things Brit. Your W is having the chance to see how much you have changed while you are in her house. She is also seeing that you are not putting any pressure on her. Once you move out she will have a lot to think about.
I was going to suggest a way of getting you and D out of the house might be doing story time at the library. I know a lot of them in the area have evening programs for working parents.
