H takes on other's pain. He takes on the pain, trials and tribulations of each of our 16 former foster kids, their spouses, our seven grandkids, a host of family and friends. H loves to be made responsible for community stuff - "please chair this", "please volunteer for that." Of course, as long as he stays busy enough he can continue to avoid closeness & can claim tension/stress. The job is a piece of cake, he has voluntarily put controls on that.
HUH!
Now that's interesting. !! When you put it like that... he is a workaholic. It's just not at his "day job".
If you take what I said about "his job", and substitute something about [taking on everyone else's work], as a priority for what should be his #1 job: the 'job' of being a father and husband, then I think that what I said is still relevant to you.
I may have picked up some prior comments from you about him "working", and presumed "job", when you meant "this other stuff".
Anyways... yeah... workaholic, sounds like.
Last edited by Dom R; 01/23/0808:43 PM.
My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D. Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M. 3 wonderful sons caught in the middle
