Sorry you are going throught this. My wife was a similar age as yours when this all started. Initially every thing was amicable, I just treating her as a friend etc.
Her initial suggestion was to live in close proximity, have sundays together, for me to be part of the kids lives etc.
Well things changed dramaticaly, from acting as if I had the cooties, to just grunting at me.
I certainly agree with your approach to No. 1 it does not pay to reduce yourself to their level and act hostile. Take the high road.
No. 2. Well! If this is MLC, I would not put money on this actualy happening. They would have to be of sound mind, to stick to this. Read the resources, they will either take their offspring as a possession, to use as a pawn, or reject them as well, as this is a reminder of a life they want rid of.
Time will tell, unfortunately. Just divert your love to you children. They are the unfortunate victims of this mess, but you do not need me telling you this.
