I realize I sound terrible describing H as a slob, cheap, and anger issues, but don't mean to sound nasty, really. I always thought that's what made us a good match; I'm a little bit of a slob myself; and now that I'm cleaning all the time I don't mind him being a slob anyway; his sloppiness doesn't bother me at all and never has although I think a lot of women would mind that he never throws stuff out or hangs up clothes, drops them where he takes them off, etc, leaves cabinets and drawers open when he uses them, etc.
His cheapness has never bothered me either; my brother finds it to be a sign of an abuser or something, but I hate to spend money on myself, so I think that was a good matchup too. H is bothered by his anger issues himself, and is seeking counseling for them already....Karen43
