Karen, I've come to believe that what Mr.GEL did was almost necessary for us to get to where we are now. A definitely a painful way for us to get there...but I believe it was necessary. It was the catalyst we needed to kick us both in the butt to do what we really had to do. I had to stop giving him chances and excuses, and he...he had to decide to really participate in our relationship or lose it. Fortunately he valued it, our son, and he valued me enough to do some really tough work. There was a time I didn't know if I could get past what he had done...but I have.
