So if I give him an ultimatum (and believe me I have done this in the past) and he isn't ready to give up his affair I will just lose him. Ha! But I haven't got him anyway, she has.
He isn't a man that likes being 'told' what to do and part of me has wanted him to come to that decision on his own.
From Oct-Dec my husband asked me to try again. I refused, point black. I was seeing someone but my husband didn't know about him until the end of November. I didn't believe my husband but he was very persistent, comments when he dropped the children off, emails, texts, phone calls...it was drip, drip, drip. Christmas morning i had many texts (he was OW and her two boys) begging to try again and it was then that I listened.
But he couldn't end it with her. He tried, but he just couldn't finish it.
Even on Saturday when he brought the children home he said 'I've never said I aren't coming back, if you've moved on by then it will be my loss'.
I am so torn. Do I leave things as they are. Cut all contact as I have been doing. Or do I give him a time frame and stick to it?
