Hi all, been reading but not posting, not had much to offer or to say, all silent on the H front since Christmas.

Before Christmas I was beginning to believe H was simply a walk away, I saw nothing, I heard nothing, he seemed to just be getting on with life fine & dandy.

This past week I have heard a depressed H, not directly but through his L.
H has been dragging his feet, disagreeing with everything, he has been unrealistic with all aspects of the D and financial settlement.

He has made this statement " I disagree on a matter of principle, Mrs ** has had everything her own way up to now "

This is a statement from the man who had 2 affairs, lied & covered up, left his family just after a very expensive family Christmas holiday, can't speak to his sons, wont have any involvement with sons, wont reply to any correspondance, doesn't pay a penny of maintainance and took half the house contents.

I think it must be MLC if he really believes that I have had everything my own way, His L must see through this, my L feels that his is having a hard time, mine said that it is obvious that H isn't being honest with his L, as she is suprised by some of the info passed over.

We are just over 2 years since H moved out which was immediatly after being confronted, the D is in the final stages, we are an estranged family living day to day. We can't plan, just dream for the time being. I have my sons, we are close and care very much about each other.

I pity H, he just doesn't know how to reach out, he is no where near.

I have the patience, I have the time I could wait this through, but my financial state has pressured me to go with the D. Although H initiated our D, I have not resisted it.

For those who are contemplating using the last resort technique I would suggest, think very carefully cause once the D process is entered it is very hard to step back, the system itself pressures both sides, and once court is involved the deadlines force your hand, it becomes a railroad, the MLcer is weak it must be difficult to fight back even if they really wanted too.

I would not suggest any of you try to use the last resort on a MLcer, because they just wouldn't get it.